Believe - It's Us Who Move This Nation Forward.
Let's Not Lose Hope On Ourselves.
Let's Not Get Blinded By The Fanfare Of Policy Makers.
Let Us Believe In The Power, That Is "Us" To Keep Our Motherland Safe.
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Through this blog post, I want to reflect on certain aspect of society. Through all the actions that has been happening over the past week all over our nation, we are tying to find a very solid and valid solution at grass root level.
We are all part of this society and it is us who are in a way responsible for such heinous crimes against woman in the society.[Aawwwww.... You have the option to hit Alt+F4 on your keyboard , anytime you like.]
We have formulated a system in the society, we ourselves, where we have different set of rules for boys and girls, man/woman. The very basic system is divided.
Boys are given more privileges, better education, freedom. They are taught everything to survive in this world . On the contrary, girls are trained to live depending on a male. Girls are taught too but somehow a different set of rules apply to them.
[Noo..I am sorry. I know it's not like that, but for the sake of my argument, let me say that. ]
Mostly all homes have a different set of rules for males and females. Every rule that is set for a male is more superior than the privileges enjoyed by a female.
Somehow rules for girls begin with "DON'T' like: DON'T do this, DON'T do that, DON'T laugh loud, DON'T wear that etc.etc.
Won't such rules make a woman feel less confident about herself? Won't this make her fail to stand up for herself?
Are we in a way, taking away her confidence thereby making the females of our society, easy pray for all assaults mental ,physical/ eve teasing etc.?
[ "Hey!!! Woman is not a horse. Alryt? Stop comparing woman with a horse". Okkkkkk..Sure thing. It's just symbolic.]
I believe that these rules fixated by the society creates a divide in the mindset of males and females. This mindset automatically over ride the respect that is due towards a woman. We can only clean this system , if we shatter this kind of differentiation.
By asking questions like "Why is she wearing that?" or " What was she doing at that time of the night?" or "Why was she walking alone?" etc. when an assault happens on a woman and criticizing everything a woman does, we are In a way siding with such SOCIAL TERRORISTS. We are giving these SOCIAL TERRORISTS, a reason to get away and get away without feeling any kind of guilt.
Are we social beings grooming up boys/males to have a mindset which thinks that the Girls/Woman are inferior? We are ourselves creating a society where the males are aggressive and privileged.
We have a society which feels that, woman should be "Protected" not "Respected" . In some cases zilch on Protected and Respected. A woman can take good care of herself, if the society grooms her equal.
Please, let us NOT close our eyes to this divide.
Let's start cleaning up this divide from our own homes and personal spaces.
The society has to root out this phrase "YOU ARE A GIRL/WOMAN". Once we Kick that phrase out of our DAILY VOCABULARY at home/office/everywhere around us, we will attain a better perspective so, will the society as a whole.
Our nation, Hindusthan, has a heritage and this heritage has always respected woman and given her the highest status symbol in the society. Somewhere this idiolism shattered.
In my personal opinion changing the word 'RAPE' to 'SEXUAL ASSAULT' won't assure woman her saftey nor the new set of rules and frameworks. We can't expect the Policy Makers to do everything/anything for us. We have to understand that we already have enough Commissions and Judicial framework to nail any/all such assaults. What we can demand from them is provision to Fast Track the trials and 'Definitive Punishment' of highest order (Including Death Penalty) in case of any assault on any woman. We should also set in place a system for strongest law enforcement and routine appraisal of the implemented system with random fail safe checks .
We gotta do 'things right' here not the 'right things'.
We are the Government, so let us think about it from our side. Let us do our part to empower women at our homes. This means a society that is conductive to rights of woman, a society that respects woman as an indvidual.
Let's promise ourselves to do the things right. Let us be sensible. Let us start from us. Let us do everything that is right for our Motherland.
Let's pray for that woman who has survived that brutal assult, and is staying strong.
Let's keep our country safe, for us all.
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Falak pakad ke utho, aur hawa pakad ke chalo,
Tum chalo to hindustan chale
Tum chalo to hindustan chale
Lagao haath ke suraj subah nikala karein
Hatheliyon bhare dhoop aur uchhala karein
Lagao haath ke suraj subah nikala karein
Hatheliyon bhare dhoop aur uchhala karein
Ufaq pe paav rakho, aur chalo akad ke chalo
Ufaq pe paav rakho, aur chalo akad ke chalo
Falak pakad ke utho aur hawa pakad ke chalo,
Falak pakad ke utho aur hawa pakad ke chalo,
Tum chalo, to hindustan chale Hindustan chale... Chalo!
____________________
"Be the change that you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi
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Through this blog post, I want to reflect on certain aspect of society. Through all the actions that has been happening over the past week all over our nation, we are tying to find a very solid and valid solution at grass root level.
We are all part of this society and it is us who are in a way responsible for such heinous crimes against woman in the society.[Aawwwww.... You have the option to hit Alt+F4 on your keyboard , anytime you like.]
We have formulated a system in the society, we ourselves, where we have different set of rules for boys and girls, man/woman. The very basic system is divided.
Boys are given more privileges, better education, freedom. They are taught everything to survive in this world . On the contrary, girls are trained to live depending on a male. Girls are taught too but somehow a different set of rules apply to them.
[Noo..I am sorry. I know it's not like that, but for the sake of my argument, let me say that. ]
Mostly all homes have a different set of rules for males and females. Every rule that is set for a male is more superior than the privileges enjoyed by a female.
Somehow rules for girls begin with "DON'T' like: DON'T do this, DON'T do that, DON'T laugh loud, DON'T wear that etc.etc.
Won't such rules make a woman feel less confident about herself? Won't this make her fail to stand up for herself?
Are we in a way, taking away her confidence thereby making the females of our society, easy pray for all assaults mental ,physical/ eve teasing etc.?
[ "Hey!!! Woman is not a horse. Alryt? Stop comparing woman with a horse". Okkkkkk..Sure thing. It's just symbolic.]
I believe that these rules fixated by the society creates a divide in the mindset of males and females. This mindset automatically over ride the respect that is due towards a woman. We can only clean this system , if we shatter this kind of differentiation.
By asking questions like "Why is she wearing that?" or " What was she doing at that time of the night?" or "Why was she walking alone?" etc. when an assault happens on a woman and criticizing everything a woman does, we are In a way siding with such SOCIAL TERRORISTS. We are giving these SOCIAL TERRORISTS, a reason to get away and get away without feeling any kind of guilt.
Are we social beings grooming up boys/males to have a mindset which thinks that the Girls/Woman are inferior? We are ourselves creating a society where the males are aggressive and privileged.
We have a society which feels that, woman should be "Protected" not "Respected" . In some cases zilch on Protected and Respected. A woman can take good care of herself, if the society grooms her equal.
Please, let us NOT close our eyes to this divide.
Let's start cleaning up this divide from our own homes and personal spaces.
The society has to root out this phrase "YOU ARE A GIRL/WOMAN". Once we Kick that phrase out of our DAILY VOCABULARY at home/office/everywhere around us, we will attain a better perspective so, will the society as a whole.
Our nation, Hindusthan, has a heritage and this heritage has always respected woman and given her the highest status symbol in the society. Somewhere this idiolism shattered.
In my personal opinion changing the word 'RAPE' to 'SEXUAL ASSAULT' won't assure woman her saftey nor the new set of rules and frameworks. We can't expect the Policy Makers to do everything/anything for us. We have to understand that we already have enough Commissions and Judicial framework to nail any/all such assaults. What we can demand from them is provision to Fast Track the trials and 'Definitive Punishment' of highest order (Including Death Penalty) in case of any assault on any woman. We should also set in place a system for strongest law enforcement and routine appraisal of the implemented system with random fail safe checks .
We gotta do 'things right' here not the 'right things'.
We are the Government, so let us think about it from our side. Let us do our part to empower women at our homes. This means a society that is conductive to rights of woman, a society that respects woman as an indvidual.
Let's promise ourselves to do the things right. Let us be sensible. Let us start from us. Let us do everything that is right for our Motherland.
Let's pray for that woman who has survived that brutal assult, and is staying strong.
Let's keep our country safe, for us all.
Tum chalo, to Hindustan chale Hindustan chale!!
Falak pakad ke utho, aur hawa pakad ke chalo,
Tum chalo to hindustan chale
Tum chalo to hindustan chale
Lagao haath ke suraj subah nikala karein
Hatheliyon bhare dhoop aur uchhala karein
Lagao haath ke suraj subah nikala karein
Hatheliyon bhare dhoop aur uchhala karein
Ufaq pe paav rakho, aur chalo akad ke chalo
Ufaq pe paav rakho, aur chalo akad ke chalo
Falak pakad ke utho aur hawa pakad ke chalo,
Falak pakad ke utho aur hawa pakad ke chalo,
Tum chalo, to hindustan chale Hindustan chale... Chalo!
____________________
"Be the change that you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi
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16 comments:
Here's a suggestion...
Perhaps you could begin by not objectifying women in the name of art w.r.t "Oil Painting - Lady in Jeans" and denigrating women w.r.t "Conversations" ....and start objecting to praises like, "That's one piece of ass!!!"
How about BEING that change, huh?
Sure thing.
Painting is art.
OKay..I can rename my paintings. Well,
I never meant to Objectify then or anytime.But then again,at this point of time, you have a very valid point.
About the comment on art." "That's one piece of ass!!!"
its a "comment" on "art". Its a remark not made on a human being .Lets not be too sensitive here and not too critical on every thing but only on things that matters.
" Its a remark not made on a human being "
Are you for real!!!! Comments like that are aimed at women everyday, in every corner of our 'civilized' society!
Maybe it's time we did become 'sensitive' to crass remarks like that.
As for the painting, it's not the name of the painting that needs changing! When was the last time you painted a guy in the buff?
@anonymous
Yes, we should be sensitive to such remarks. I agree.
Over sensitivity or being critical to every remarks would invalidate the whole purpose.
With the whole reaction thing lets not go back to the 1800s. This is a new millenium.We need to sanitize , make it conductive.That is what we should try to do.
So let us be very practical and think maturely when responding to situations.And not REACT based on our emotions. It never helps.
I agree and i understand your anger completely. Just because I am a male i am not immune to what is happening in the world around me.
And the art/painting as a whole which has a woman in ..Well.Its ART.
Its light and shades on a canvas.
When you look at a painting, your thoughts about that very image makes it beautiful or vulgar.
Hence I rest it on the case "Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder".
Its not about painting a guy or painting a woman. Its about ART.
I do think you have seen Mural paintings and idols and some astounding work of art of sculptures. So please do try to understand that, everything that a male does is NOT against a woman.
So lets react and lets understand then react sensibly.
@ ANonymous
in case you failed to capture my point..
Also in response to your comment which I have written above I was talking about reacting to the remark.I meant "reacting to the remark on my painting."
That is the context in which i have responded.
I do totally agree with you that any such lewd remark against a woman should be dealt with BUT, not the one on a poster/ Tv ad/ Music Album/Elle magazine cover/Film Poster.
Dont you think the over sensitivity will create its ownside effects?
With our zest reaction let us not invalidate the whole purpose.Let us find a balance.
Let us not be acute in approach. The world has come a long way from rules of Churches and temples to rules of pure democracy.
So lets behave and ACT, respond to empower this democratic framework so everyone can survive in the "changing global behavior pattern".
Let us empower ourselves in such a way that we will be able to survive anywhere in this world- Alryt?
Also About the Conversations I post here.
Well, I do take permission from my friends (girls as well as guys) before I post it on my blog.
Even she has commented on that conversation in her Alias Id. Most of the time, my friends do comment on the conversations I have posted.
Peace out.
My dear Sorcy you do not need any permission before making remarks on your blog nor writing anything you are a free man so be yourself like a Wild Horse and Run Free,let the Wind Blow you mane and "Let it Rain".
But,you are the opposite end of the spectrum in regard to how it should be,it should be like 1800 in regard to all the PURE UNADULTERATED FILTH in the media and magazines nowadays.
Hi Bossman
sir. the point you made is very correct.
when you talk in serious tone it scares to write comment.
Hi Sorceeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
This is one of the most sensible blog I have read on this issue.What you wrote is very sensible and true.
Approaching any subject with emotion helps in aggravating the situation and make it worse only.
Thank you for this bold post.
@ Sorcerer
Gasp!
That is quite a reaction to what was meant to be an observation!
Anyhoo, let me try and clarify a few things and hope that it brings, what appears to be, this exchange of verbal missiles to an amicable conclusion.
To begin with, I agree with the essence of your post. Well articulated and relevant. I am NOT debating about the content of THIS post.
My first comment was just an observation that some of your previous posts and paintings SEEM to be the total antithesis of all that you expound so eloquently in this post. It was an observation, no more no less. Please be assured that doesn't mean that I have judged you in any way.
You however have taken that liberty. I understand that, "everything that a male does is NOT against a woman." I am not a man-hater. Ironic that you should imply that, considering you don't know anything about me.
‘Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder’ Yes, of course. But there is a fine line between beauty and vulgarity. It’s a line that one must tread upon with great caution. To use your own examples, Murals, paintings and sculptures like the ones in Khajuraho or for that matter the Florentine sculptures and paintings. Are they sensual? Yes.
Do they offend? No. What about Playboy and other magazines of the same genre? Sexual? Of course. Offensive? Sexist? Degrading to women? Many would say so. Apart of course from Hugh Hefner and the boys/ men who enjoy such rags.
As I said, a fine line.
Which brings me to your assertion that “lewd remark against a woman should be dealt with BUT, not the one on a poster/ Tv ad/ Music Album/Elle magazine cover/Film Poster?”
The women in these posters/ Tv ads/ Music Albums/Elle magazine covers/Film Posters, ARE real women and even if they WERE a figment of someone’s imagination, it does not justify passing lewd remarks against them.
One only has to read the papers, to realize the impact that violent and sexually explicit visuals have on adolescents . Sexist remarks are just one of the effects.
You assert that the comment posted by the individual in your blog, is a comment on what he perceived as art. Perhaps he was admiring the fine dexterity of the artist’s hand in outlining the subject’s ‘fine piece of ass’.
I stand corrected.
You also seem to think I have been over sensitive and unnecessarily critical about EVERY remark. May I point out, that it was only the remark mentioned above and the texts of some of your posts specifically the one titled ‘Conversations’ that I observed were a contradiction to what you so passionately declared in this post. Hardly EVERY!!! C’mon! My comments were not born out of a sense of prudishness (1800s... millennium of prudishness?) or ‘acuteness’ as you put it. It was a considered response to your posts.
Yes, we live in a democracy as you so rightly put it. Unfortunately we have a section of society who actually use the rights and liberties of a democratic society to behave in a manner reminiscent of the Stone Age!
My comments were not intended to offend you in any way. It is regrettable that they have.
Be Well. Be Happy.
The same goes for female Donkeys in South America,or had you not heard of the Rape in Okcala,Florida of one in heat or I at 10 being attacked sleeping innocently?
@anonymous
Previous blog posts:
I have made fun of all segments of the society in my blog irrespective of gender/hierarchy, in sarcastic way. What ever..i dont really care how the reader takes it. its their freedom to analyze the point I put forward, their way.
Conversations: As I said, it could be "lewed" as you would put it..or simply fun. but dont make it OBVIOUS and take away the fun..
Thats about it. Read it..laugh about it..forget it.
Paintings and as such:
Its how you take it. be it with cloth or without cloth.
Comment: He saw a donkey in the painting? wow! thats some creative thinking!!
offended or not..this is a democratic blog..
peace out.
@Gayathri
:)
Thank you for the comment
@Pattambikkaan
Thanks macha.
Iam so pavam actually.
Hmmmm, This post is like a comet! A snowy serious blog, with a very large empty tail of comments...
@Samarjit Roy
Yeah, this comet will glide harmlessly clearing the earth,
Thanks for the comment :)
sorcy, take a look at this excellent article i came across yesterday on this very subject.
http://www.thehindu.com/opinion/lead/the-rapist-in-the-mirror/article4295240.ece?homepage=true
@P.Venugopal
Aye aye captain..
sir,
You have written a very true, realistic, honest and unbiased article.
:)
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